So, 2018 didn’t exactly turn out the way you had planned or hoped for? Maybe you said the same for the years before too, the grass is always greener on the other side – or in this case after the bells ring in and the new year begins. Still, each year we cling on to the hope that this year will be better. I’m the pessimist here to tell you that it won’t. At least not right now.
Starting each year with a sigh of relief that this one finally ended, and setting unrealistic goals about all that you will achieve, is setting yourself up for failure. Most of us enjoy dreaming big; so come January 1st you will stop eating junk, you’ll start going to the gym every day after work, you’ll set hard-fast rules “no cheating whatsoever!” 3 weeks later your days in the gym decreases, your cheat day turned into a cheat week, and every week you tell yourself “I’ll start again tomorrow.” Suddenly we’re half way through the year, and you haven’t really reached your goals yet, but soon there is a new year, and you’ll make the same resolutions then.
“Change doesn’t come just because the new year did, change comes from the work you put in.”
There is a better alternative though, and that is setting yourself up for success. Understand your limitations, and which potential pitfalls there are. Be realistic and specific, a goal high in the skies makes for a harder fall. If something seems to always be out of reach motivation to grab it might wither away, so find out how far out of reach to place your goal. Or break it up into smaller, more achievable goals.
I understand the allure of starting something new at the beginning of a new year, but don’t just make resolutions because it is expected, make them because you want to.
Change doesn’t come just because the new year did, change comes from the work you put in.